• Mary Ann "Skipper"
  • 2021
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The Tender (loin) TrapWe chose tenderloin. I had never done this before.
I was in new territory as I don’t cook meat.
Where would I buy it? How do I cook it? What side dishes would accompany it?
As with any new project, we often start swimming,
thoughts overwhelm us and we get flooded.

I do what I always do when this happens.
I got into action. I asked for help.
I asked friends where to buy the meat, 
what recipes they suggested and to borrow a good meat thermometer.
I was told that is the secret.

My husband and I even bought a baby tenderloin
to practice preparing a week ahead of time
so I could be confident that the recipe worked.

As with any change, it is often not the change we fear, but the loss.
We lose confidence, control, our expertise/knowledge, and possibly identity
when we venture into something new.

I was coaching a client recently
and in discussing her potential job change,
she was having similar emotions to my dinner party experience feelings.
Stepping into something new follows a parallel path regardless of the situation.

Lessons to remember:

  1. Let go of the old.
    While this may be challenging, it is necessary to allow space for something new.
  2. Ask for help.
    Invite support from others. It will expedite your learning and success.
  3. Focus on what you can gain.
    Fear accompanies change because we focus on loss. Get excited about what’s possible.
  4. Get into action.
    Action eliminates fear. Just as practice makes permanent as the sports world knows,
    action builds confidence and minimizes overwhelm.
  5. Remember:
    1. By definition, being a beginner means you aren’t an expert.
    2. Mistakes may happen (you may use regular salt instead of kosher salt).
    3. You will have expanded your circle of comfort to explore new situations.

Keep growing, keep exploring and keep stretching!!